On a Thursday night after a long week, I realized I was a
couple of days late. I decided to take a
pregnancy test, even though it was outdated and I knew you were supposed to do
it in the morning for it to be most accurate. It was a solid dark line! I couldn’t believe
it! I told Jason right away and he was so excited! Because it was outdated, we
decided on the spur of the moment to go run to Meijer and buy another test. While
we were there we bought a couple baby books too. We were such geeks. When we got home, I took the digital test and
it said “Pregnant” !! We were so excited it was hard to sleep.
We found out what we were having with Victoria at our 20 week ultrasound. When the lady told us it was a girl, I was so
excited! We went and bought some girl clothes right away. I had a lot of baby showers- one at work, one
at Jason’s Aunts, one with my bible study, and one Up North at my parent’s
house. The baby shower Up North was on
Halloween. It was the last time I saw my
Grandma Goebel alive. I will cherish those memories forever. I only wish I had a picture of her with
me. We do have some pictures of her
there though.
I finally got to triage, still really mad and sad that Jason
wasn’t there. Andria and my Mom came in one at a time to
support me. They made me lay on a bed the whole time and had me hooked up to
monitors right away and said the baby’s heart rate was dropping with every
contraction. I was ticked that I had to
be laying down…it felt horrible with each contraction. This wasn’t the way it
was supposed to be! But, I didn’t know how to argue with the nurses, they
seemed to order me around. I had
horrible chills and shakes during labor.
I got word that Jason’s mom was going to pick him up and bring him to
the hospital. I was relieved, and yet, I
knew that it would be this “manic” Jason, not my normal husband. He arrived and they told him to be quiet,
because I didn’t want a bunch of talking when I had the contractions. He was quiet and held my hand and supported
me. I was glad he was there then. After
like 2 hours, they finally let me into a room. I couldn’t believe it took so long…couldn’t
they tell I was in labor? They were so close together. My sister arrived then around 3AM…she drove
her family down from Up North in the middle of the night! I couldn’t believe
it. I wanted to stand up and lean over
the counter…not lay in bed. But, the
nurses made me get back in a bed and hooked up to monitors. Since I was exhausted because I had been up
all day, I decided to get an epidural. I
also got it because I figured what the heck, everything is already going not
how I wanted it. They told me to “rest”
and see how things progressed, since the baby wasn’t coming down enough and I
wasn’t dilating much. I couldn’t rest
much though, because I still had horrible shakes and chills. We tried watching a movie while Jason laid
down on the couch to try to nap. I had
been in labor for 8 hours already. After
about 30 minutes, a doctor came to check me and said I was dilated 5cm. As she was checking me, she accidently broke
my water! She then said that they were
thinking I was going to have to have a c-section. I was devastated, but at that point, I wasn’t
surprised. They called the doctor that
was there on call, Mary Beth Grey in. All
the nurses started changing into surgery clothes “just in case”. This stressed me out a lot. It was probably 4 AM. The doctor came in and said the baby had
pooped inside which was a risk. All of a
sudden I was rushed into a surgical room. Everyone was moving so fast. I felt like I was
in a movie. Jason was still back in the
room…I was all alone. I was in total shock.
One nurse took the time to reassure me that I wasn’t alone and that I
wasn’t there. She was the only one that
made me feel like a human being. I was so exhausted and disoriented. I had oxygen and all sorts of other stuff
hooked up to me. No one explained to me
what was happening. They setup the huge
bright light and I was laying there like a limp doll. It was so weird. I could feel them cut and work around. The anesthesiologist was an old Asian
dude. He sat by my head and talked to
me. I kept asking him “is the shaking
and chills normal?”
Finally, after just a couple minutes, they pulled Victoria out. I heard her scream a beautiful scream and the
Anesthesiologist said “do you hear that!?” It was amazing. She was born at 5:02 AM, March 20th, 2010. Finally Jason came in. He had taken a while to get the scrubs on. I couldn’t believe he hadn’t been there
sooner, but wasn’t surprised. He was at
least there to watch her just after she came out and got weighted and measured.
I laid there while they sewed me up. I
felt so helpless not being able to see my baby yet. They had her over to the side on a table
cleaning her up and such. He brought her
to me all swaddled up and clean. I couldn’t
see her face very well though because he’s so tall and didn’t want to drop her!
I couldn’t believe my baby girl was
here! Then he left with her to get bathed and such while they worked on me for
another 20 minutes. My baby was here and
I was stuck in an operating room. I was
so nauseas still that I threw up on the bed as they wheeled me over to a
recovery area. Jason was there with me
as we talked. We were so excited. We got to pick out a little hat for Victoria . The nurse, Morgan, talked to us about our
dogs. I was still shaking a little. I couldn’t understand why I had to be away
from my baby during this time. It was
probably about an hour. I was taken to
my room finally where I got to see my baby and try breastfeeding. She latched on no problem. At about 9AM, Jason had to leave. He was so tired and not himself. He took a video of himself talking and showing
off Victoria .
Corrine took him away. I was devastated but knew that he needed to
get more help figuring out his medications. I spent 4 days in the hospital with tons of
visitors and flowers. Everyone came to
see me because they knew I was all alone. Someone stayed with me there each night. I was so glad my baby girl was here. She kept me going despite how upset I was
about Jason. I felt like I was in a
Lifetime movie. On the day we went home,
my parents drove Victoria
and I home in our mini-van. I had
visioned us all going home as a family (with Jason) my whole life. I held it in, but was really sad that he wasn’t
there. Jason was in the hospital for
about a week after that. When he came
home, he was still not fully regulated on the medications and was not himself. He took about 6 weeks of FMLA leave off from
work. As he was still pretty manic, he
was never home at first. He was trying
to go do activities with friends constantly.
He still was not himself. Some
medications calmed him down, but made him super tired. My maternity leave was not what I expected at
all. I was home with a sick husband and
an infant.
I took 3 months off. Victoria had a lot of
problems nursing. I went to a lactation
consultant multiple times. She lost a
lot of weight in the first month. The MD
didn’t know what to do…but I really didn’t want to supplement with formula as I
knew nursing was better. Finally, at 6
weeks, after her not gaining weight and not latching correctly, the lactation
consultant said that it just wasn’t working. I was going to try to pump and feed it to her,
but it was just too much work and I wasn’t pumping enough. I decided to give her formula. Our lives instantly got easier and she gained
weight right away. I had a good 6 weeks
with her before returning to work to enjoy her. :)
Wow! Incrediable story Caroline. Loved reading your thoughts.
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